“This will probably be my last post,” I thought as I wrote the conclusion.
“Yep, I don’t know what else I have to say after this,” I thought as I read the post out loud to my roommate and tweaked a few things.
“I really don’t see my blog going past this week,” I iterated to myself as I posted to WordPress and chose a photo and tags.
“I should probably shut that thing down,” I mused about 10 minutes before another blog post idea started percolating.
And so it went, week after week, post after post, for over 2 years. Every week or month or 6 weeks or so, I’d have a new post idea, and I’d be so excited or scared or ready to share my thoughts and the Gospel and to tell people about Jesus, my Savior, my Best Friend, my future Husband…
I can’t even tell you how many good-bye posts I wrote in my head during my commute, only to get home and have something else to write instead.
But with my last post, there was something different. Something final. I even wrote a good-bye paragraph and then deleted it because I wasn’t quite ready.
I’m ready now.
I’m so happy, you guys. Not happy about shutting down the blog, but I guess…I’m not bound to my identity as a single person anymore, and that’s a good thing. I have a lot of ideas, almost every week, that I want to blog about. I have heaps of posts in my head, and most of them are Gospel-centered; but none of them are about singleness and marriage!
In my last post, I said something about how letting go of the “sure” hope of marriage made me free to make different decisions. Well, I have some updates for you.
Update 1. I decided that if nothing was holding me back, if I could do anything I wanted without marriage on the horizon or over it, I would be an editor of books. Because of self-publishing, I’m able to do that.
Update 2. I decided that I wouldn’t be able to be an editor if I stayed at my job that crushed my soul (half from the commute, half from the work load). So I quit my job and got a new one; this new one is closer to home and is a great blend of hard and easy – just enough to challenge me, but not enough to zap all of my energy for outside of work.
Update 3. This summer, I dated someone for a couple of months. I really, really, really liked him, but things didn’t work out to head toward marriage. That’s okay.
Without the framework of planning to not get married someday, I wouldn’t have made the decision to edit, and I would still be at the job that was bad for me. Also, I would have been majorly devastated at not moving forward with my dating relationship. But because of the realizations and Gospel thinking I outlined in my previous post, I was free to let a job go, free to pursue the career I want, and free to say goodbye to a relationship that I really wanted.
My plan all along has been to turn The Blithe Bachelorette into a Blithe Book, and that may still happen someday. But for now, I’m going to focus on my new job, my church, and my side hustle (editing self-published books). I’m going to focus on Jesus, my roommate, and the people around me. (And I’m probably going to focus on dinner in a minute, tbh.)
I’ll leave you with these verses from Hosea 2:19-20:
And I will betroth thee unto me for ever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in lovingkindness, and in mercies. I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness: and thou shalt know the Lord. (KJV)
Thank you for being on this journey with me. Thank you for correcting me, calling me out, encouraging me, and sharing your stories.
Jesus is better.
Let’s all meet up in heaven someday. I hear there’s going to be a wedding.
The Blithe Bachelorette
9 thoughts on “My Life Updates, and My Goodbyes”
Thank you so much for all your posts over the last few years…they have been incredibly helpful for me, and was actually the spurring I needed to finally start my own blog. I will definitely miss reading about your insights and gospel truths. xx
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Thanks, Aussie Girl! I’m totally going to check out your blog.
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See you at church, fellow bride ❤
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And here I am just reading it for the first time. Well it was beautiful and I am so glad to hear your joy… P.S. I missed out hearing about your summer romance! For those of us who live life in the olden days (I can only get online for non work /school stuff maybe 20 minutes once every 3 weeks) send a text update! 🙂
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Very nice Blog. I read the whole thing.
I loved reading your post. Yes Jesus is best and like you, I had a moment of reframing my life trajectory. I realized one day that I have made the mistake to wait on living my best life for when I would marry…a year after I left my job and started over, 3 years after I moved down to the Southwest. Oddly, since I have reset my life and spiritual priorities , I have enjoyed Jesus Christ in a more personal way, while still desiring to marry not with a “whatever, what if never”… I can say that God’s grace is my daily hope. I can’t wait to read the rest of your blog 🙂
I don’t know if you will read this. I regret that we didn’t meet before you shut down your blog. I have been going back and forth with the decision to shut down my blog. I have only been blogging for a few months. Maybe it’s my desire for affirmation or my discouragement of the lack of numbers. In any event, I don’t know if blogging is something I should be doing. I started this because I wanted to tell my story, share my testimonies. I want to inspire others with my story of how I live a life of purpose despite my challenges of living with a disability. I feel like no wants to hear me, because it is ME. Or maybe my content isn’t any good and I need to brush up on my writing skills. You mentioned blogging for two years. Your numbers aren’t high yet your content is beautifully written. It’s evident that you share what God laid on your heart and trust that it would touch whomever it was intended for.
I’m glad I came acrossed your blog. Whether you ever read this are not. I’ve been inspired.
God bless you!
Thanks, Kim! I appreciate the encouragement. Keep going for as long as God wants you to – or until you’re done blogging for yourself. Don’t worry about the numbers; God is good no matter what the numbers look like.
Thank you so much Charity!